When I was small, I looked at you Like my Father, brother or a friend.
As i grew bigger, I realized you do not look at me the same way.
The changes in my body, have made you drool over me.
Yet, I am not an object of lust.
Most of us even in India have a privilege of being born in safe secure homes, where we are loved, respected and protected by our families. We grow up looking at our fathers and brothers, on how male figures are in a female’s life and look around trusting them. We go to schools and colleges, and make friends with boys, and that trust is there coz that’s what we have learnt. We marry and entrust our husbands with all the faith.
We come from the land of Durga and Saraswati.We come from the land where Female power is the supreme, Where without a GAURI POOJAN, even A GANESH UTSAV is not complete. We come from the land where, a female goddess is worshipped before every occasion.
Today, in that same land, I do not feel safe. If i wear skirt,unseen eyes imagine rest of my legs. If i wear Jeans and a top, unfelt hands imagine them over me.
When Nirbhaya was rapped, it was not she alone, but all the wives, sisters and daughters were rapped enmasse.
When few days before, few men who walked on streets of bangalore, it was not just those females, we all were wronged by the entire generation of males.
Let us stop expecting from the society to change, Come let’s empower each one of us and fight for us.
Turn your neck around, and you see people with their necks flexed, typing into their smartphones!
Go to a restaurant, you will find people glued to their mobile screens rather than conversing!
Kids as small as age 1, will cry for the I pads rather than anything else!
Our generation has definitely become a slave to the technology.
15 years back, when I had graduated from Medical school, the first mobile phone was from the hard earned meagrely stipend. Today my son, demands a smartphone that too best in the market when he will be in Class 9.
Possibly ours was the last generation who knew how to enjoy without the smartphones. Though, slowly it seems we too are losing the grasp.
Gone are the days of beautiful handwritten letters, Archies greeting cards, roses and teddy bears. If today someone has to propose, he/she will do it on What’s app or FACEBOOK. Someone rightly suggested, Had this been Pre Independence Era…People would just post a message saying Share it so much that It reaches Brits and they leave India.
This sharing and forwarding business is so rampant that people don’t even check the authenticity of what they share. Most hilarious of all is the one concerning Bhagat Singh’s Hanging and 14th Feb. Each year right before the Valentine, so called secular patriots will bombard What’s App and FB with those messages.
Jokes Apart, It’s disheartening to see all in a family sitting together with their mini computers in hand and a pin drop silence broken only by a video played by somebody.
When orkut and facebook were launched in 2004, it was a breakthrough. We could meet online friends we had lost in the course of growing up. But still at that time, you had to log in to your computer and because of high rates, slow internet speeds..everything was still in limits. But then came the touchscreens and with them the facebook mobile and what’s app which became popular by 2011- 12 and that has brought its own sets of worries.
While we could converse and be in touch with our distant cousins, long lost friends, what disappeared from our lives has been the intimacy and close conversations with the very people we share our lives with.
I could never understand why the mobile phone was the first thing my husband wanted to check in the morning. Ever since my dad got his laptop, my mother cannot understand why he has to play candy crush every few hours. Possibly this is what is Mobile addiction. You go to malls and find kids as small as 9 months hooked in their prams to the Ipad screens. Probably I pad is the first word they learn these days.
Among many of the couples, when one of the spouses gets hooked to his mobile phone, the other feels neglected. At times a situation like ” Please keep your phone down and talk to me” comes. There are couples who feel more comfortable chatting to each other rather than talking face to face. All this is a red signal, an alarming situation which need immediate attention. For a couple face to face talk and physical touch is very essential. For growing up Kids, they will be much more complete beings if we spend time with them rather than the smartphones.
It’s time to ponder whether we want to use smartphones or smartphones use us.
Whether we want to stay alone with our smartphones or together in a family!
As the title says Direct Dil Se, I am here to pour my heart to words. This is what all I feel, witness and have experienced as a mom and as a common person. I believe in spreading positivity through my words!!